Hitting a wall happens to even the best of us. Sometimes even sex can get boring or monotonous. You know things are getting boring in bed. In this latest installment of our Ask a Sexpert series, one of our readers asks our friend and Clinical Sexual Counselor Dr. Krychman to weigh in — how do you spice up your sex life?
What To Do If Your Partner Is Boring In Bed
How to address a boring sex life
If you've been feeling like sex is boring lately, or like you or your partner are sexually bored in the relationship, there may actually be something deeper at play here than just "sexual boredom. The truth is, there's no such thing as sexual boredom. When couples come to me complaining of sexual boredom, my antenna goes up. It can mask unresolved conflict, power struggles, laundry lists of resentments, physical aftereffects from childbirth, depression, complacency, unsatisfactory birth control, feeling unappreciated, fear of rejection, lack of confidence, or other such vulnerabilities. Often, it is the result of stagnant energy.
Ask a Sexpert: How do I spice up my boring sex life?
According to data in the Journal of Sex Research , 27 percent of women and 41 percent of men are sexually dissatisfied in their current relationship. From lack of time to medical conditions, there are lots of valid reasons why the spark may be gone from the bedroom. Sexual tastes and needs vary, so what satisfies one person may not satisfy another. But different people who are no longer sexually satisfied in their relationships may be experiencing similar problems.
I know I can't be the only one who's ever had to deal with a partner who's boring in bed. Sex should be fun! But when one partner is all about switching things up while the other likes to stick with the same routine, someone's going to be left feeling unsatisfied. I'm the type of person who really enjoys being adventurous in the bedroom.