But it is something that we rarely speak about aloud and, for some reason, it still feels hard to be truly open about. Rose shut Kanye down with what is, apparently, the ultimate affront: a disclosure of his love for a good old anal pleasuring. Her words were printed onto T-shirts, and sold on Etsy. It was, for better or worse, a true moment in our culture. Kanye, meanwhile, became uncharacteristically sheepish. Why are we so totally obsessed with orienting sexuality and mapping it onto the body?

But sometimes, anal talk can work better with a little planning. The most important thing to remember is to never surprise someone with anal play. While many people love anal sex and would enjoy adding it to their sexual repertoire, not everyone does. Some people have never tried it. Some people have tried it and it didn't work out. Some people have tried it and had discomfort or pain. Some people have had partners pressure them into it.

I kinda get that one. But the one act seems to reign supreme as the biggest center of controversy and that is anal sex. The reason why some people have such a terrible experience is that the anus does not expand and repair itself as well as the vagina and sex can cause rips and pain if not done properly. Because of so many women having these terrible experience with anal sex, it can lead to understandable apprehension, which can then lead to coercion by their partner.

It can feel like anal sex for women is the final frontier. But still, for some, anal is a big deal. But the fact remains that not only have many women tried it, but many women like anal sex. As Sinclair explains, not only is this narrative false, but it's also problematic in more than one way.