They feel they are losing their husbands or they are worried because their husband is often angry and irritable. Sometimes they are in my office because the husband had an affair, or because he said he wanted a divorce. I start the therapy process and eventually it comes out there has been very little sex for months or years. It means something is off. The longer you ignore this the harder the punch will be when you are forced to deal. Every single time, the wife is surprised….
Ask Ammanda: My wife doesn't want to have sex with me
When a Wife Doesn't Want to Have Sex - Marriage Missions International
These are some typical complaints I hear as a certified sex and relationship therapist. Often what lies beneath these complaints is a raw sense of fear, sadness, and hopelessness. The truth is that, most likely, many things are contributing to your wife avoiding intimacy with you. The question is, what can you do about it?
I feel a need to address both women and men on this matter, because it DOES matter. Both feel very strongly about this part of their marriage. But it also addresses what it is like for the man to be refused.
This is a post specifically written for husbands. I can only hope he and his wife got some professional help while they still could. My husband told me about a former friend of his whose marriage was destroyed over this issue. As a woman, I could copy the social correctness and start blaming men for being insensitive and single-minded sexually, that is.